Put Your Positive Pants On: Staying Positive Amidst Negativity

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Some people enjoy dwelling in negativity. All you have to do is look at some of the political media coverage in our country to know this is true. The media loves to dwell in and propagate negative thinking and doom and gloom, and it can be suffocating. When I feel this way, I turn off the television.

The same is true in real life: when people are filled with negativity, I tune them out as well.

This is not to say that disturbing things don’t happen today. There are, indeed, very disturbing situations taking place all over the world, but when we begin to allow them to affect our own personal outlook and ability to change things, it could hurt us in the long run.

I don’t like being held captive by negativity. By nature, I’m a positive person, but a few years ago, I felt myself go into a downward spiral, I didn’t like it, and I didn’t like who I was becoming. Not one bit. I made a conscious effort to get myself back to who I was and to the power of positive thinking.

Since I’ve done that, a whole lot has changed for me. For the better. I don’t have time to feel badly now—about myself, about others, or about the world around me.

Instead, I’m focusing on how I can do the things I want to do and be the kind of person I want to be in a positive light. I am in control of how I can make a difference and positive impact on people and situations.

There will always be those people who want to see you NOT do as well as they do. There will always be folks who are NOT rooting for you. And, there will always be a line of thinking that is not in line with YOUR way of thinking. These obstacles are just that—obstacles—and you have to power to overcome obstacles. Turning up your positive volume requires you to be strong when you have tremendous belief and passion. Forge on, and remember that the positive energy comes from within you and not from outside sources.

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There are a plethora of quotes and articles about the power of positive thinking. This stuff is real, otherwise, we wouldn’t pay attention to it. And, more than that, it is effective. Things can change for you by adjusting your sails, as John Maxwell’s quote above indicates.

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I had to explain to one of my kids the other day, who was being a little harsh on himself, that the worst thing you can do is to compare yourself to others. I asked him if he did the best he could do on a particular endeavor, and his answer was “yes.” I explained to him that I don’t compare myself to other writers, because if I did, I might start feeling really awful about myself. I told him that what I do is to compare myself as a writer TODAY to the writer I was YESTERDAY, or more specifically, I ask myself if my latest book is better than the one I wrote before it? The only person you should ever compare yourself to is who you were yesterday–are you better than you were the day before and the day before that and the day before that. Comparison leads to negativity, and we should just stop doing that immediately.

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If you want to compare and be competitive, then compete against yourself. That can certainly be a motivator. And, it can be easily tracked. You will know for sure if you are doing better each day.

Positive attitudes can truly change your outlook on things. And it beats the alternative of being down in the dumps, angry, bitter, and negative.

Just typing those words leaves me feeling uneasy.


Stephanie Verni is Professor of Business Communication at Stevenson University and is the author of Inn Significant, Baseball Girl, and Beneath the Mimosa Tree. Along with her colleagues Leeanne Bell McManus and Chip Rouse, she is a co-author of Event Planning: Communicating Theory and Practice, published by Kendall-Hunt.



Face the [Mon]day Salesperson…With Enthusiasm

riseupMondays: Does anyone love a Monday morning, when the alarm goes off and you have to face another week of work and responsibilities? It’s not likely, especially when you’ve had a great weekend. But, Mondays greet you 52 times a year, and they stare you down, as you wonder what the week will bring.

You need a salesperson to come in and sell you on Mondays.

“Hey, good morning,” the Monday salesperson would say. “Wake your butt up! A new week is here! Time to shower and dress and get ready for a week of exciting things ahead!”

You would stare the Monday salesperson down, in awe of his or her stupidity. How can a Monday be good? It’s Monday, for crying out loud. Mondays are the worst day of the week.

“Well, of course they are,” the salesperson would say, “with that type of attitude. You need to dump the negativity and look forward to some bright things ahead. Face the day with enthusiasm, not dread. Let’s get going! There’s so much to accomplish!”

Bah-humbug, you would think. This salesperson’s nuttier than a fruitcake. You want him to leave so you can slink back under the covers.

“I won’t let you do that,” the Monday salesperson would say.

“Do what?” you ask, innocently enough.

“Go back under the covers. Look at this stunning day…blue skies…sun is shining. Put on your happy pants and get out of bed.”

Finally, the enthusiasm of the Monday salesperson has beats you down, and you succumb.

You get out of bed. You shower. You force yourself to smile in the shower. You try to whistle while you make your coffee. You tell yourself the commute won’t be bad. You tell yourself it’s going to be a good…no, great…day.

You’re armed and ready for it to begin.

With enthusiasm.


For Writers & People Facing Change

Great QuoteSometimes I see something that makes me stop and pause. This saying did it for me today. As a writer, blogger, professor, and a believer in a positive vision for the future, I love the meaning of this quote. Too often, we hold on to the past, when sometimes, what we need to do, is just look to the future.

We are all guilty of doing it at some point in our lives.

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