First, a little historical perspective…
St. Valentine lived during the time of Claudius the Cruel in Rome. Under his rule, Claudius was not fond of men who would not join his military leagues due to their devotion to their wives and families. Therefore, Claudius banned marriages and engagements in Rome. However, Valentine defied the emperor and continued to perform marriage rituals for people in love in secret.
When Claudius discovered what Valentine was doing, he ordered him put to death. The sentence was carried out on February 14.
While in jail and prior to his death, Valentine wrote a farewell note for the jailer’s daughter, who had become a friend. At the end of the letter, he wrote, “From Your Valentine.”
Hence, why we call love notes and letters during this time Valentines.
After his death, Valentine was named a saint, and we celebrate Valentine’s Day.
Second, get out your pen and paper if your wallet is dry…
There is nothing more sentimental, sweet, and loving than writing a heartfelt love letter to your Valentine or someone you love or someone who has changed your life or helped you along the way.
It’s not difficult to write a letter, it just takes a few moments of your time.
Here are some ideas for writing that letter:
- Share what they mean to you
- Recount a meaningful, funny, or sentimental story you’ve shared
- Tell them what you’re looking forward to in the future
- Write from the heart, in your language, using your words
- Pick pretty stationery or a card that suits your relationship
- Plan to do something together that doesn’t cost anything and put it in writing. Some examples could include the following: taking a walk, strolling a museum, going on a hike, sitting by the river together with a book, watching a movie or your favorite show on television, attending a poetry reading at a local bookstore–anything that the two of you can do that does not cost money
Remember, your Valentine loves YOU not your money (or lack thereof), so do what you can do, and put your heartfelt words on paper.
They will love you even more for it.
Stephanie Verni is Professor of Business Communication at Stevenson University and is the author of Inn Significant, Baseball Girl, and Beneath the Mimosa Tree. Along with her colleagues Leeanne Bell McManus and Chip Rouse, she is a co-author of Event Planning: Communicating Theory and Practice, published by Kendall-Hunt.